It’s the second course of your first date. You’re looking into the eyes of your mandidate and he looks good. Even better than when you first met.  All the words coming out of his mouth sound spot-on.  And you start thinking to yourself, “Hmmm, he’d make a great kids soccer coach, wouldn’t he?” The waiter refills your wine glass as you ponder if he might be available to be your date at your cousin’s wedding next month. Holy s*&t! You know what he is thinking at this point, Ms. Fast-Forward? He’s thinking about his ‘get you home and as close to naked as possible’ strategy. Don’t be crushed. His thought is actually totally appropriate given how well you know each other and his inherent testosterone levels. You see, when it comes to dating, in the beginning, you have to be rational. You have to live in the moment to keep your sanity and your potential future intact. Simply, guys exist in a head-centric, reality-based space, not a heart-centric, fantasy-filled one.  They don’t want to take it faster. They aren’t looking for a speed-racer trip to marriage and you shouldn’t be either, so calmly enjoy the gift of the present and you might make it to the dessert course and beyond.