I can predict with 99% accuracy that when my phone rings between 6-7pm, Tuesday through Saturday, it is going to be a client with first date nerves. I get it. First dates can be nerve wracking… if you let them be. Sure there are lots of things that could go wrong – he could be late, you could be under/over dressed for the occasion, uncomfortable silence could prevail. We’ve all experienced all of these things and more/worse. However, I truly believe that WE make first dates as awkward as they are going to be. If instead of trying to predict and control every last detail, you instead took more of a bamboo approach and just flowed with the wind, you and the experience would benefit. There are two easy ways to implement the cool, calm and collected approach. First, do something relaxing before a date. If you are in a geting ready frenzy up until the minute you need to leave, frenzied will be your state of being. But, in contrast, if you get ready with time to spare to have a glass of vino, watch a funny clip on youtube or read a few pages of a fave book, relaxed is what you will be. Secondly, BE YOURSELF. Instead of trying to do or be what you “think” your date wants, just be you. For example, if you are unsure whether your greeting should include a handshake, hug or kiss on the cheek, don’t forecast – just do what is natural for you. Even if you collide as he tries to give you a hug and you stick out your hand for a handshake, you AND he will know that you are a woman who knows what she wants… and nothing is sexier than that!