There are some dating dos and don’ts that even the most progressive of mom’s, the coolest of big sister’s and the savviest of all dating books simply don’t teach. These are the things that truly drive men to you like bees to honey with minimal effort. Although, seemingly small, don’t overlook these secret’s significance. Put these dozen tricks into action and watch how quickly your luck in the dating playground changes.
1. It is better to go out alone than in big groups. Men are fearful of packs of women; simply they can’t figure out how to infiltrate the swarm. Therefore you are most likely to attract the attention of a guy by either going out alone or in a group of three whereby your party is not only small enough to approach but the guy knows that when he steals you away, your friends can entertain each other, reducing reluctance from you.
2. Men are more attracted to women who wear color than those who wear black. Despite fashion marketing dictating that black is always the new black, bright color, in particular jewel tones, pop on nearly any skin tone and radiate directly from you, to the eyes of men. Further, in a sea of women wearing black, color wearers stand out boldly and beautifully.
3. Casual leaners are more approachable. Women who lean casually against a bar, almost sloppily (but not drunkedly) are far more approachable than those who stand upright next to it, arms crossed and rigid. Having a relaxed body posture signals to a potential guy that you are friendly and down-to-earth.
4. Guys like girls who can eat. According to It’s Just Lunch, “45% of men objected to women who talked about their weight or their newest diet on a date.” Talking about your weight or obsessing about an entrée that is cooked with real butter as opposed to a calorie free alternative gives off the impression that you are self-conscious and high maintenance. Men want to spend time with a women who is comfortable in her own skin, literally.
5. Wearing the wrong shoes can kill your chances of a second date. Sure you may look stunning in your 3-inch heels, but not when you are hobbling around in them. Nothing quite kills a date for a guy than a woman moaning about how her feet hurt too much to walk, dance or even stand. Furthermore, wear the right shoes for the occasion (i.e. no heels to a ball game). Find the happy medium of looking great, being comfortable and being occasion-appropriate, so that your date can last as long as you’d like it too, pain free.
6. At a party, stand, never sit, in the middle of the room. By being in the middle of the room, you have access to all of the men of interest, plus it becomes impossible for you not to be noticed by every guy there as you are literally in the center of traffic, en route to the bar, the bathroom, etc. If you hide out in a corner all night, opportunity could literally pass you right on by.
7. Staring is perceived as hostile. Although you may think that a longing gaze shows your interest more intently than a quick glance, such a stare can be perceived as harsh, whereas what you want to go for is flirty. Therefore instead, shoot off quick glances in the direction of your crush. Volleying multiple glances will kickstart other promising body language exchanges and eventually one of you will be brave enough to make a real move.
8. A scary movie is a great date idea. Although dating advice tends to veer away from movies on initial dates, if you are going to go the movie route, choose a horror flick. “When people’s fear is increased, they tend to have the same hormones activated as the ones that are activated in sexual attractions. And you can interpret that reaction as, ‘Oh, I feel closer to this person I’m with in this fearful situation,’” explains Dr. Beverly Palmer.
9. Men don’t just need encouragement. They need a lot of it. So this means that when you are interested in a guy at a bar, for example, you need to give him multiple signals in multiple ways that you are interested. Therefore, you need to compliment eye glances with smiles to increase your odds that he will come over and talk to you
10. Men can read lips much better when they are laced with lipstick. Men may complain about lipstick collar or kiss marks on their cheeks but studies show that a man’s first impression of a woman’s attractiveness has been shown to be much higher when she wears lipstick, particularly rich and luscious colors. Pucker up!
11. Men are more attracted to women while they are ovulating. Researchers have speculated that although men don’t know that ovulation is occurring, they positively respond to subtle clues such as changing body odor and slightly increased waist-to-hip ratio during this part of a woman’s cycle. In addition, lip color, skin tone and pupil dilation changes occur as well which also could enhance attractiveness. So when it is ovulation time, get out there and mingle!
