We all know the MAJOR reasons to breakup with someone – infidelity, no common goals, abuse, loss of interest. But do you really have to wait until one of these biggies happens to call it quits? I mean, really, wouldn’t it be more admirable to take the high road and say “Sianara sweetheart” before one of the majors happens as a result of a buildup of smaller things? Absolutely! Thus, to avoid one of the majors, take a look at send of the less severe, but equally legitimate and smart reasons to breakup with someone so that you can move onwards and upwards towards a more fulfilling relationship.

You’ve got someone else on your mind.  Whether it is an ex or a potential crush, thinking about another guy in an intimate way is your heart’s way of telling you that you are looking to receive something that you’re not getting from your current partner. This could come in the form of physical, sexual, intellectual, spiritual or emotional fulfillment but the bottom line is that your current relationship isn’t cutting it.

You spend more time fighting for the relationship than being happy in it.  Disagreements happen, even in the honeymoon period but if you are spending the majority of your time aggravated, trying to “figure things out” as opposed to enjoying the moment, this is definitely a relationship ripe for reconsideration.

You’ve tried and tried but… The 90-day trial period should be easy-breezy, wash n’ go, no sweat! If you are forcing any part of it, perhaps trying to get him to be different than he is or trying to make yourself be cool with something that you simply are not, just to make it work, this is a relationship to rethink. By 90 days, true colors are what they are and if you are not ok with them as is, this is not the relationship for you.

You’d rather have elective surgery than be single again.  If in one way or another you are biding your time until something better comes along or you just can’t bear the thought of saying, “table for one,” and that is the reason you are in your obviously sub-par relationship, do yourself and your guy a favor and terminate it. Settling to avoid singledom is pathetic to the max… and you both deserve better.

You feel guilty.  In the case where you already know that your relationship has no long term potential, for whatever reason, but you are too afraid to break it off out of concern that your guy can’t handle being let down, you need to get over your ego… and quick! It has only been 90-days… he can handle it so set him, and your guilt free.

You do all the work.  Whether you actually put forth all the effort or it just feels that way, be it planning dates, making calls, etc, a feeling of imbalance will lead to a feeling of resentment which will lead to a lot more yucky stuff. So quit while you’re ahead to save yourself further anguish.

You compare your man to others. Ever find yourself wishing your guy was more like your sister’s man or your relationship was more like Brangelina’s? This is a big signal that you are dissatisfied in your relationship. Sure, every person and every relationship has gorgeous things about it and imperfections, but a relationship should evolve in spite of them, not because of them. If you can’t love yours as is, it’s time to move on with it.