Dating can be tough, even downright miserable sometimes. I know. But if you want to get to happily ever after, you have to find the rainbow in the rain. After all, what guy wants to date a girl with a cloud hanging over her? With these how-tos in mind, you will be smiling from “hello” to “goodnight” and beyond, whether your date ends in a knee-weakening kiss or with a drink in his face.
Recall what is FUN about dating. Newsflash: Dating isn’t all bad. It is actually a lot of fun. Stop and think about five things you actually like about dating. From getting butterflies to shopping for new date outfits and dressing up; from first kisses to LOL bad date stories to share with girlfriends to amazing first dates and everything in between, you know there are at least a few things you enjoy, so tap into those to avoid dating doldrums.
Put on your love spectacles. Chances are if you have a downer attitude about love it is because deep down, you really really want it. So, start soaking it up all around you. When you see a happy couple making out around you, envision yourself doing the same. Instead of puking at ads that include messages of love, dream of yourself in one. Get inspired by the love that you see, imagine the possibilities, because believing in love makes you more lovable.
Dating is the ultimate teacher. Dating is all about the test drive. Whether obvious or hidden, there is always something to be learned about what works for you or doesn’t in each and every date. The insight could be small – like how wearing heels actually does make you look hotter and therefore more confident – to something large – like how you need to be with a guy who appreciates fun as much as you do. Extracting that gem of knowledge is worth your time, every time.
Control your dating weather channel, not the forecast. Since it is as possible to predict the outcome of a date as much as it is the weather, stop trying. Instead, concentrate on controlling what you can: your attitude about it. Be mindful of your radar and work towards an optimistic setting, knowing that yesterday’s dating weather pattern was necessary for today’s and that today’s could bring new love opportunities tomorrow.
Celebrate the mini victories as if they were major homeruns! Rather than only looking at scoring a boyfriend as a victory, consider enhancing your dating skills wins too. Celebrate when you flirt like a pro, when you call a new guy, when you let go of a guy you don’t really like. Celebrate a great first or second date. Celebrate handling rejection with a laugh, celebrate a new outfit. Celebrating the little stuff will make the whole process of dating oh so much more fun!
Be who you want to date. Ever dated a guy who’s attitude was “All women are greedy b*tches or no one is as good as my mom”? Honestly, how bad would that be? Well, that is what you come across as if you have a bad dating attitude, one reminiscent of “All the good ones are taken or are gay.”
There is always the one before the one. We never know how many dates or relationships it will take or when he will pop up but if you aren’t out there immersed in dating, one thing is for certain, you will never find him. Simply, dating is the only thing that leads us to our life partner… and that magical date could just be the very next one!
