Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
Just because you WANT a relationship, doesn’t mean you are READY for one. Being in a relationship is a big responsibility. After all, it is about commitment. It is about dedicating your time and your emotional energy to someone else, to a partnership and to yourself in a new way. It isn’t like buying a…Read More
On this week of thanks, I find myself like I am sure all of you, thankful for so many things. Among them though, and perhaps surprising to some of you, I am incredibly thankful for all of the heartbreak in my life. From my first “boyfriend” in fourth grade through the boy I sooooo loved…Read More
Meet Mark. My dear friend. My dear talented, smart, sweet, funny friend, Mark. I met Mark just before he got married. Married for the third time. I distinctly remember him telling me how he knew this would be the last walk down the aisle. Alas, a few weeks ago, Mark signed divorce papers. For the third time.…Read More
Spring has officially sprung. Now that the clocks have moved forward the days will get longer, winter’s cozier layers will reveal hot summer bods and all across the globe women will not only clean out their closets, boyfriends will also be discarded like last season’s trends. That’s right, we’ve entered breakup season. All winter long…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
Unreturned phone calls. Last minute plans cancellations. Excuses galore. And then finally, the elusive talk. “It’s not you, it’s me.” “Let’s be friends.” If you have ever been on the receiving end of such a series of cryptic messages, all leading up to “the end” then you are intimately familiar with how maddening it can…Read More
Snoopin’ through a man’s phone, email, drawers, glove box, etc may make for spicy Jersey Shore content, but in the real world (or shall I say mature world – sorry ladies of the JS), snoopin’ is a tell-tale sign that a relationship is at the beginning of its end. Here’s the conundrum: If, on your…Read More
It’s universally understood I believe that the day after a breakup is a horrible, terrible, no good, very bad day. It’s a day that leaves you feeling lonely, empty, confused, sad, angry, dark, heavy and turned upside down and inside out in every way which way. Sometimes, all you can do is sit in it,…Read More
We’ve all been there. At the end of a relationship… having that painful and awkward final talk. Both parties on their best behavior, trying to save face and feelings… trying to preserve whatever dignity remains of a relationship gone awry. But why? Why are we so polite when it comes to the end? Why are…Read More
So you may have heard by now that Ashlee Simpson Wentz and Pete Wentz are on the journey towards divorce. According to sources, “they’ve just grown apart.” For you regular readers, you know that I rarely comment on celeb love lives or lack thereof, but I thought this particular dissolution bore a little insight and…Read More
You may be familiar with my 31-flavors theory of dating… the idea that how could you POSSIBLY know if a man is “the one” if you haven’t sampled the other 30 flavors out there. This obviously is based on my love affair with Baskin Robbins. I’ve loved it since I was a kid. I personally…Read More
Breakups suck. I get it. We ALL get it. Find me someone who loves them, and I’ll point you to a liar. I however will be the first in line to find the sun in a cloudy day, the opportunity in a challenging situation. Optimism, along with humor and a thirst for knowledge and understanding…Read More
It is no secret – breakups suck. Now that we got that out of the way… let’s discuss how breakups can also be the greatest bitchslap in the world of relationship reality. Relationships, particularly unhealthy ones, can keep us in a delusional state. They can make us believe things about our partner, things about ourselves…Read More
With Jason out of town this weekend, I took the opportunity to date myself, a worthwhile practice for singles and coupled-ups alike. Dating yourself helps to fortify your love affair with yourself, ensuring that your personal love meter doesn’t falter which allows you to then graciously let love into your life and love others with…Read More
Yesterday was moving day. I unlike virtually anyone else I know, LOVES moving day. In fact, I love everything that leads up to that big day. I love looking at where I am in relationship to where I want to be. I love choosing my next destination as a result of the soul search. I…Read More
It’s not my forte to dish on celeb couplings and decouplings. After all, who am I to have an opinion about people I don’t know, not to mention I consider celebs people just like you and I (particularly the likes of Jim Carrey – I’ve had lunch with him and he couldn’t be sweeter, smarter,…Read More
“I can’t believe I’m back here again,” sighed my broken-hearted friend, channeling Aiden (from SATC), to which I asked, “Where?” She replied, “Right here. All by myself. Alone……….. Single.” Without taking offense to what I’d like to think of as a prominent role in my dear friend’s life, I understood where she was coming from.…Read More
Over the past week I’ve had conversations with three fabulous women, all deliberately stuck on single because of their reportedly thiefing exes. Fab gal #1 claims her ex-love stole her independence and until she gets it back, which she plans to do by joining a women’s networking group, connecting with her friends and re-focusing on…Read More
If you woke up this morning, the day after V-day, with a chocolate hangover and the guy by your side was your ex, you just might have a case of “retrosexualitis,” meaning that when the going gets tough in the dating scene, you get weak for your ex. If the Britney song “Oops I did…Read More