Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
Research has indicated the 90% of cultures engage in swapping spit rituals. But why? Sure it feels good, but there is more than meets the tongue during a hot (or not) makeout session. So much more that an actual science about it has been born: philematology. Essentially we have sex for the purpose of procreation,…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
We all wear many titles. For me, I don the hats of love stylist, writer, grad student, amateur baker, beach stroller, vintage shopper, stepmom, soon-2-be mom, sister, daughter, BFF, business owner, candy addict, to name a few. I’m also a second wife. I won’t lie. Being wife #2 has a lot of downs. A LOT. After…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
Today was haircut day. Haircut day always reminds me of a less good version of my current self. It reminds me of a day that I had no voice. Back in the day, I would dread getting my haircut. Granted when I was 10 I had a hairstylist on her own mission and cut TWELVE…Read More
We all know that a relationship’s foundation must include honesty, communication, romance, a sense of humor and loyalty. Turns out that just isn’t enough. So, what else does it take to sustain a happy, healthy relationship? I’ve got five secrets to help put you and your sweetheart on the road to lasting relationship bliss. 1. “We” Time”:…Read More
I always imagined a marriage full of laughter. Sure, realistically there would be bickering here and there and a blow-out fight every once and again for good measure, but for the most part, when I thought marriage, I thought laughter. This is NOT what you see on TV. And it is definitely not what I…Read More
I know what causes divorce. I know, intimately, that divorce sucks. And I know the divorce rates… I’m not naive to the fact that the likelihood of divorce among people I know is really, really high. But still I sit stunned this morning at the news that the first of my married friends is splitting,…Read More
Saturday was mystery date night. I took Jason to the carnival… a place of incredibly fond teenage memories. Most of them are from movie scenes, not my own. Nonetheless though, the idea was to tap into our inner kid. For me that is a daily thing, but for Jason, not so much. I have to…Read More
I used to think of myself as an awesome girlfriend. I thought because I was loving, sexually liberated and baked cookies regularly, I was ideal. Boy, did I overate myself! To be fair, I have always been a pretty good girlfriend. I’m willing to bet my vintage dress collection that if you surveyed my exes,…Read More
Snoopin’ through a man’s phone, email, drawers, glove box, etc may make for spicy Jersey Shore content, but in the real world (or shall I say mature world – sorry ladies of the JS), snoopin’ is a tell-tale sign that a relationship is at the beginning of its end. Here’s the conundrum: If, on your…Read More
Jason is going out of town for the night. Thank freaking God. Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband entirely and I wholeheartedly enjoy spending time with him. In fact we spend a lot of time together. I can’t recall the last time we spent a night apart. And I’m ready. In fact I’ve…Read More
Sometimes relationships aren’t so easy to figure out. We can easily get jumbled. Between a rush of emotions, a surge of thoughts and sometimes also a vocal audience contributing to the noise, our beliefs on what a good relationship is or isn’t, can get a little (or a lot) mixed up. All the thinking and…Read More
Jason and I are fans of the show “Chopped.” If you aren’t familiar with it, it goes a little something like this: 4 experienced chefs compete to create the best of 3 dishes… app, entree, dessert. Dish by dish, one gets eliminated. The catch is that they are presented with a mystery basket of ingredients…Read More
I’ve never met someone who doesn’t get stung by negative feedback. it’s natural to in fact, regardless if you agree with the criticism or not. What burns the most when negative feedback falls upon your ears isn’t typically the content of the message but rather the threat of what could happen because of it.. might…Read More
My giddy girlfriend Jenna returned yesterday from her first traveling experience with her new man of four months. Naturally I inquired… “So, how did you feel traveling with (we will call him) Justin?” Immediately she smittenly rambled into a 2-minute monologue of all the things they did on their weekend getaway… “It was great! I…Read More
The days following Valentine’s Day always strike me as such a wonderful opportunity. Not only can you score the cutest love inspiring trinkets for half-price (you know that’s what I’ll be doing today!) but it serves as an occasion to take stock of how loves serves or doesn’t serve you… and what you can do…Read More
So you may have heard by now that Ashlee Simpson Wentz and Pete Wentz are on the journey towards divorce. According to sources, “they’ve just grown apart.” For you regular readers, you know that I rarely comment on celeb love lives or lack thereof, but I thought this particular dissolution bore a little insight and…Read More
You may be familiar with my 31-flavors theory of dating… the idea that how could you POSSIBLY know if a man is “the one” if you haven’t sampled the other 30 flavors out there. This obviously is based on my love affair with Baskin Robbins. I’ve loved it since I was a kid. I personally…Read More