Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
We all know that a relationship’s foundation must include honesty, communication, romance, a sense of humor and loyalty. Turns out that just isn’t enough. So, what else does it take to sustain a happy, healthy relationship? I’ve got five secrets to help put you and your sweetheart on the road to lasting relationship bliss. 1. “We” Time”:…Read More
Ok, so maybe the female cast of Jersey Shore can pull off these looks, but ladies with class, ladies looking for the men I hear everyday they want – respectable men who treat them with respect, and relationships that are healthy, happy and sustainable, need to bury these traits, deep, NOW! 1. Ms. Desperado (i.e.…Read More
I’m pretty much obsessed with the Olympics. I love everything about it – the stories of perseverance, the hope of becoming a national champion and some kids hero, the grace of some events and the intensity of others, the camaraderie, the rivalries. I even love the fashion. The other night though as I was listening…Read More
When I recently asked a new client her tippity-top love styling goal, her reply was, “To find someone who will love me uconditionally.” My response, “There is only one person who can do that. And I handed her a mirror.” Call me cynical but I don’t believe in a thing called unconditional love, outside of…Read More
Today marks my 3rd Anniversary. Three years ago today, at this time, I was en route towards my marital destiny. We wrote our own vows. I can remember adding finishing touches to them as I drove up the coast to Malibu, top down, the ocean breeze and the sun stroking me. I couldn’t wait to…Read More
Meet Mark. My dear friend. My dear talented, smart, sweet, funny friend, Mark. I met Mark just before he got married. Married for the third time. I distinctly remember him telling me how he knew this would be the last walk down the aisle. Alas, a few weeks ago, Mark signed divorce papers. For the third time.…Read More
Research has indicated the 90% of cultures engage in swapping spit rituals. But why? Sure it feels good, but there is more than meets the tongue during a hot (or not) makeout session. So much more that an actual science about it has been born: philematology. Essentially we have sex for the purpose of procreation,…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
Today was haircut day. Haircut day always reminds me of a less good version of my current self. It reminds me of a day that I had no voice. Back in the day, I would dread getting my haircut. Granted when I was 10 I had a hairstylist on her own mission and cut TWELVE…Read More
I always imagined a marriage full of laughter. Sure, realistically there would be bickering here and there and a blow-out fight every once and again for good measure, but for the most part, when I thought marriage, I thought laughter. This is NOT what you see on TV. And it is definitely not what I…Read More
I know what causes divorce. I know, intimately, that divorce sucks. And I know the divorce rates… I’m not naive to the fact that the likelihood of divorce among people I know is really, really high. But still I sit stunned this morning at the news that the first of my married friends is splitting,…Read More
Saturday was mystery date night. I took Jason to the carnival… a place of incredibly fond teenage memories. Most of them are from movie scenes, not my own. Nonetheless though, the idea was to tap into our inner kid. For me that is a daily thing, but for Jason, not so much. I have to…Read More
I used to think of myself as an awesome girlfriend. I thought because I was loving, sexually liberated and baked cookies regularly, I was ideal. Boy, did I overate myself! To be fair, I have always been a pretty good girlfriend. I’m willing to bet my vintage dress collection that if you surveyed my exes,…Read More
Snoopin’ through a man’s phone, email, drawers, glove box, etc may make for spicy Jersey Shore content, but in the real world (or shall I say mature world – sorry ladies of the JS), snoopin’ is a tell-tale sign that a relationship is at the beginning of its end. Here’s the conundrum: If, on your…Read More
Jason is going out of town for the night. Thank freaking God. Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband entirely and I wholeheartedly enjoy spending time with him. In fact we spend a lot of time together. I can’t recall the last time we spent a night apart. And I’m ready. In fact I’ve…Read More
Sometimes relationships aren’t so easy to figure out. We can easily get jumbled. Between a rush of emotions, a surge of thoughts and sometimes also a vocal audience contributing to the noise, our beliefs on what a good relationship is or isn’t, can get a little (or a lot) mixed up. All the thinking and…Read More
Jason and I are fans of the show “Chopped.” If you aren’t familiar with it, it goes a little something like this: 4 experienced chefs compete to create the best of 3 dishes… app, entree, dessert. Dish by dish, one gets eliminated. The catch is that they are presented with a mystery basket of ingredients…Read More
I’ve never met someone who doesn’t get stung by negative feedback. it’s natural to in fact, regardless if you agree with the criticism or not. What burns the most when negative feedback falls upon your ears isn’t typically the content of the message but rather the threat of what could happen because of it.. might…Read More