Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
To become an ace student of dating, it is all about putting what you learn into action. Burying yourself in textbooks and lessons can only take you so far so here is a cliff notes, crash course in dating designed to give you insta-success this weekend out in the dating playground. Don’t worry about failing…Read More
Research has indicated the 90% of cultures engage in swapping spit rituals. But why? Sure it feels good, but there is more than meets the tongue during a hot (or not) makeout session. So much more that an actual science about it has been born: philematology. Essentially we have sex for the purpose of procreation,…Read More
I’ll admit it – I’m not Irish… but I love St. Patrick’s Day. Green bagels and beers aside, I love it because it is a fabulous reminder for me to recount all of my lucky charms. And wow, especially with the chaotic state of the world right now, do I ever feel lucky! I’m lucky…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
Calling all daters! I get it. Online dating can be a drag, at best. Even if the most awesome of circumstances, the experience never seems to measure up to what they advertise on TV. That’s why I am excited that a new breed of online dating sites are launching this year – dating sites who…Read More
Tis the season for making goals… and I am all for it! Especially when it comes to your love life. I know for me personally, it wasn’t until I got serious about making my love life a priority, that blessed things starting happening in it. Because after all, a goal without a plan, is just…Read More
Calling all the single ladies! I have spoken to many of you in the past couple of weeks. It’s been a tough time for most of you. And believe me, I get it. I spent many a holiday on my own, wishing I had someone super duper special to exchange gifts with, to smooch under…Read More
There is something truly magical about people in love. Now I’m not talking about high school butterfly love or even that new dating, honeymoon period lusty type of love… I’m talking about that deep-rooted, sustainable TRUE love. It transcends cute and when you are either in it or just around it, it is all consuming.…Read More
As in nature, in relationships a balance of give and take must be struck for harmony to be achieved. Sounds cliché, I know, but its true, and often, as women, our natural tendencies to mother takeover in a relationship and we can over-give, resulting in not paying attention to the scales. While relationships shouldn’t be…Read More
We all wear many titles. For me, I don the hats of love stylist, writer, grad student, amateur baker, beach stroller, vintage shopper, stepmom, soon-2-be mom, sister, daughter, BFF, business owner, candy addict, to name a few. I’m also a second wife. I won’t lie. Being wife #2 has a lot of downs. A LOT. After…Read More
I can remember as even a tiny little girl (around 4 years old) my mother telling me “to marry my best friend.” What she forgot to mention (aside from the fact that yes, eventually I might actually not be totally grossed out by kissing, let alone boys), was that I first had to fall head-over-heels…Read More
In the world of dating, it is easy to get swept up by fear and in turn lose faith. But talk to any “successful” dater and she will tell you that faith was instrumental in her love quest. Unsure of where you stand on the faith/fear meter? Take this quiz to find out! 1. Imagine…Read More
We all have our own definition of what it means to be physically slutty. Some of us may even be current or recovery sluts. But have you ever thought about if you are emotionally promiscuous? Being emotionally promiscuous can take an equal toll on our self-esteem as being physically promiscuous. Promiscuity is characterized as casual…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
Four years ago I spent some time in Africa – Mozambique to be specific. In my village there was no electricity, no plumbing, water was 1.5 mile walk away, food was scarce and to be shared among the many inhabitants. Medical care was unheard of and shelter at best included a mud floored hut with…Read More
I’m a big believer in universal energy. I believe that everything in the universe is on loan to us to leverage as we need. I believe that we are born to love and born to be loved. I believe that it is EVERYONE’S divine right to experience rich, gorgeous, healthy, sustainable love. But what I…Read More
There are scads of articles and books written promising a foolproof formula to finding a husband. Usually they include a step by step guide with a guarantee of success in x number of days. If you are a reader of these, time to toss them and whatever manipulation they have down to your head and…Read More
Today was haircut day. Haircut day always reminds me of a less good version of my current self. It reminds me of a day that I had no voice. Back in the day, I would dread getting my haircut. Granted when I was 10 I had a hairstylist on her own mission and cut TWELVE…Read More
The “L” word (love) is a funny thing. Most of us begin a dating journey in hopes to arrive at that magically warm, comforting place. But what we may not realize is that getting there too fast can be detrimental. The “L” word in my opinion is a journey in and of itself comprised of…Read More