Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
I’ll admit it – I’m not Irish… but I love St. Patrick’s Day. Green bagels and beers aside, I love it because it is a fabulous reminder for me to recount all of my lucky charms. And wow, especially with the chaotic state of the world right now, do I ever feel lucky! I’m lucky…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
This time of year a barrage of pre-packaged, hallmark love wrapped in pink and red cuteness bombards us from every which way, forcing us to stare love in the face. From stuffed bears and singing cards to heart-shaped diamond pendants and 5-course dinner specials ending with a kissing swan soufflé, it can all make you…Read More
Calling all the single ladies! I have spoken to many of you in the past couple of weeks. It’s been a tough time for most of you. And believe me, I get it. I spent many a holiday on my own, wishing I had someone super duper special to exchange gifts with, to smooch under…Read More
There is something truly magical about people in love. Now I’m not talking about high school butterfly love or even that new dating, honeymoon period lusty type of love… I’m talking about that deep-rooted, sustainable TRUE love. It transcends cute and when you are either in it or just around it, it is all consuming.…Read More
I securely locked my car and walked into the 122nd St school… my home away from home where I do some volunteer work. I’ve seen prisons prettier than this institution of learning. In fact there are several similarities between it and jail. First there are the gates. Gates everywhere! What should be a free-spirited playground…Read More
I’m not sure what age I uncovered that Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny weren’t real, but I do recall being really, REALLY disappointed. Not only did I feel betrayed by my parents trust, I felt let down by magic. How could something that seemed to be so magical, be so unreal?! Eventually,…Read More
Not a day goes by where I don’t stumble upon some piece of love advice that includes a rule. The flood of do’s and dont’s is enough to make anyone, not only crazy, but screw everything up! The good news is that most of them are crap – designed to fill magazine pages, dialogue in…Read More
In this control-alt-delete world we live in, where everything from our memories to our network of people can be carefully orchestrated, manipulated, contorted and ultimately even erased, the element of surprise is lacking… big time! And further, as a result, comfortably resting in truth is also lacking. I’ll give you an example. Back in the…Read More
By a show of hands, how many of you had perfect parents? Parents who showed you precisely and thoroughly how to be in a happy, healthy, sustainable relationship? I’ll wait…. Ok, I thought so. Very few of you. And no, I didn’t answer my hand either. In fact, to date, I’ve yet to meet someone…Read More
Babies are wicked smart. Before they can even talk, they figure out how to get what they want. If they want to be cuddled they wear an undeniably cute expression that simply can’t be ignored. If they are hungry or need to be changed, they cry. When they want to have something they learn to…Read More
The days following Valentine’s Day always strike me as such a wonderful opportunity. Not only can you score the cutest love inspiring trinkets for half-price (you know that’s what I’ll be doing today!) but it serves as an occasion to take stock of how loves serves or doesn’t serve you… and what you can do…Read More
Sometimes we become our own worst enemy; our biggest block to what we want. Especially when it comes to love. So this year, I want a focus for you to be granting yourself, PERMISSION TO LOVE. This means letting go of yourself, getting out of your own way and letting love come to you. This…Read More
I’ve never been a big champion of New Year’s resolutions. I don’t fancy the pressure of having to sit down with pen and paper in hand on the first day of the year, somewhere in between trying to kill my champagne headache and trying to remove some glitter nonsense off my eyelids, and reflecting on…Read More
The other night, I devoted my evening to watching sports on the tellie with Jason. We flipped back and forth between the hockey game (Kings vs. Sharks) and Monday night football (Saints vs. some red team), as I replenished his beer supply, served as his pillow and waited patiently for a fight to break out…Read More
On this week of thanks, I find myself like I am sure all of you, thankful for so many things. Among them though, and perhaps surprising to some of you, I am incredibly thankful for all of the heartbreak in my life. From my first “boyfriend” in fourth grade through the boy I sooooo loved…Read More
You may remember the “slap heard around the world,” featured in Real World Seattle, circa 1998. Well, I bore witness to that infamous reality TV moment as a college intern on the show. I became an intern on what at the time, was the coolest TV show on MTV not by design but by chance,…Read More
Yesterday was moving day. I unlike virtually anyone else I know, LOVES moving day. In fact, I love everything that leads up to that big day. I love looking at where I am in relationship to where I want to be. I love choosing my next destination as a result of the soul search. I…Read More
I’m accustomed to seeing love in places that others just see what’s plainly before them. It’s literally threaded into the fabric of my being. Here, there and everywhere I enigmatically see signs of love, from big to small, all day long which provides a constant flow of positive energy. I think this gift makes me the…Read More
Ever driven the same route countless times but then missed a turn? Your mind in a cloud of confusion, wonderment, overanalyzes, or perhaps just pre-caffeination? When it dawns on you, what do you do? Immediately course-correct with a u-turn, or keep on going to uncover a new route? The other morning, a very early early morning,…Read More