Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
Calling all the single ladies! I have spoken to many of you in the past couple of weeks. It’s been a tough time for most of you. And believe me, I get it. I spent many a holiday on my own, wishing I had someone super duper special to exchange gifts with, to smooch under…Read More
Just because you WANT a relationship, doesn’t mean you are READY for one. Being in a relationship is a big responsibility. After all, it is about commitment. It is about dedicating your time and your emotional energy to someone else, to a partnership and to yourself in a new way. It isn’t like buying a…Read More
I’m not sure what age I uncovered that Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny weren’t real, but I do recall being really, REALLY disappointed. Not only did I feel betrayed by my parents trust, I felt let down by magic. How could something that seemed to be so magical, be so unreal?! Eventually,…Read More
Ok, so maybe the female cast of Jersey Shore can pull off these looks, but ladies with class, ladies looking for the men I hear everyday they want – respectable men who treat them with respect, and relationships that are healthy, happy and sustainable, need to bury these traits, deep, NOW! 1. Ms. Desperado (i.e.…Read More
I’m a big believer in universal energy. I believe that everything in the universe is on loan to us to leverage as we need. I believe that we are born to love and born to be loved. I believe that it is EVERYONE’S divine right to experience rich, gorgeous, healthy, sustainable love. But what I…Read More
Spring has officially sprung. Now that the clocks have moved forward the days will get longer, winter’s cozier layers will reveal hot summer bods and all across the globe women will not only clean out their closets, boyfriends will also be discarded like last season’s trends. That’s right, we’ve entered breakup season. All winter long…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
Tis the season for making goals… and I am all for it! Especially when it comes to your love life. I know for me personally, it wasn’t until I got serious about making my love life a priority, that blessed things starting happening in it. Because after all, a goal without a plan, is just…Read More
I can remember as even a tiny little girl (around 4 years old) my mother telling me “to marry my best friend.” What she forgot to mention (aside from the fact that yes, eventually I might actually not be totally grossed out by kissing, let alone boys), was that I first had to fall head-over-heels…Read More
In the world of dating, it is easy to get swept up by fear and in turn lose faith. But talk to any “successful” dater and she will tell you that faith was instrumental in her love quest. Unsure of where you stand on the faith/fear meter? Take this quiz to find out! 1. Imagine…Read More
One of the most recurring themes of conversations among my clients and personal girlfriends alike is how almost perfect “he” was. I hear it all from “if only he wasn’t so short” to “if only he had a better relationship with his mom.” While this post isn’t about modifying your perspective of perfect, you might…Read More
Everybody wants an abundantly rich, gorgeous love-filled life. And in my opinion, it is achievable by ANYONE regardless of your history, circumstances, or otherwise. To get there, sure you need the right attitude, but you also need a team… a dream team to help you along the way. By having a team of supporters, and…Read More
Not a day goes by when I don’t have some sort of thought about how I could really stand to lose 5 pounds. Sometimes the thought is fleeting and other times, it lingers. The more it lingers, the more it spirals into other bad thoughts and the more it spirals, the worse I feel. Sound…Read More
Smart dating is a lot like advertising for a job. It’s about letting people know that you are open for dating business! That YOU are ready for fabulous and willing applicants! And the best way, short of purchasing billboard space or using a megaphone at a rally, is to build your love network. You already…Read More
There is gobs of information and advice on what sustains a relationship, but in my opinion, it all comes down to THREE essentials… the 3 As: 1. ATTENTION: Taking a vested interest in the life of your partner demonstrates love, plus the capacity for true partnership. When you are paying attention, all of your senses…Read More
“You are your propblem… and your solution,” – Brynn (Rebel Wilson) from Bridesmaids. Ok, I agree, this is one of the most duh quotes ever, but when I heard it this weekend in the over-the-top hilarious and emotionally heartfelt flick, my lightbulb had a MAJOR flash. Too often I encounter people who (pardon my French),…Read More
My stepdaughter has a bit of a bullying problem. Actually it is more like a mean girls problem. And it sucks. It is so painful to watch her sweet little face spill out the tragedy of the day while she eats her afternoon snack. Each day it is an extension of the previous day… a…Read More
Everyone has a love appetite. And that’s a good thing… in fact, we are wired to. But let’s be honest, not everything on the menu is very healthy… not at least for long term love. So what is your love appetite? What tastes good to you? What do you crave? Often I see in my clients…Read More
Not a day goes by where I don’t stumble upon some piece of love advice that includes a rule. The flood of do’s and dont’s is enough to make anyone, not only crazy, but screw everything up! The good news is that most of them are crap – designed to fill magazine pages, dialogue in…Read More