Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
I’ve always been someone who rocks to her own beat. Even since I was a kid, my lane of comfort was the one that often defied logic or went against instructor instruction. I didn’t choose the path consciously; perhaps it chose me. For the most part it has worked out well… I’ve lived a life…Read More
I always imagined a marriage full of laughter. Sure, realistically there would be bickering here and there and a blow-out fight every once and again for good measure, but for the most part, when I thought marriage, I thought laughter. This is NOT what you see on TV. And it is definitely not what I…Read More
The days following Valentine’s Day always strike me as such a wonderful opportunity. Not only can you score the cutest love inspiring trinkets for half-price (you know that’s what I’ll be doing today!) but it serves as an occasion to take stock of how loves serves or doesn’t serve you… and what you can do…Read More
So you may have heard by now that Ashlee Simpson Wentz and Pete Wentz are on the journey towards divorce. According to sources, “they’ve just grown apart.” For you regular readers, you know that I rarely comment on celeb love lives or lack thereof, but I thought this particular dissolution bore a little insight and…Read More
Want to know the real secret to dating and healthy love success? It’s actually simple. It lies in doing ONE thing… ONE thing, really really REALLY well. What’s that thing? I’ll tell you. Dating and healthy love success relies on you becoming your own biggest dating and healthy love advocate. That’s right, YOU and only…Read More
Emotional baggage sucks. It sabotages potentially great future opportunities in life and in love simply because we internalize our past experiences – all the yuck that happened, storing it deep inside, and then process it into negativity and fear blocks. Then, either the negativity stored within is triggered in new situations causing damage, or our…Read More
As a now retired corporate veteran of several Fortune 500 companies, I’m well schooled in the reliance on a solid corporate mission statement – something that embodies what the company stands for. In fact, the companies that I support the most, that I’m most loyal to and that I find myself most often praising, have,…Read More
Sometimes we become our own worst enemy; our biggest block to what we want. Especially when it comes to love. So this year, I want a focus for you to be granting yourself, PERMISSION TO LOVE. This means letting go of yourself, getting out of your own way and letting love come to you. This…Read More
Just because you WANT a relationship, doesn’t mean you are READY for one. Being in a relationship is a big responsibility. After all, it is about commitment. It is about dedicating your time and your emotional energy to someone else, to a partnership and to yourself in a new way. It isn’t like buying a…Read More
We talk a lot about the ‘C’ word. Commitment. What it means, the pros and cons, what it takes to find it, how to maintain it. We are more or less conditioned from birth to want to commit to all sorts of things – a sport, a BFF, career track, a home and of course,…Read More
Last night, while dining on chicken nuggets and grape juice with my stepkids (stepmoms are off the hook for being culinary artists which in many ways makes us heroes, but I digress) I noticed the slogan on the Heinz ketchup bottle read: Grown, Not Made. Grown, not made. Grown. Not. Made. How genius, I thought…Read More
As I watch the gardener tackle my yard today I can’t help but notice the striking parallels between his work and the work involved with building a healthy love life. When he first arrived, he surveyed the property with a holistic view. He looked around for what needed tending to and what didn’t. He then…Read More
I remember my first roadtrip with a semi-BF. I was so excited envisioning me and my lover boy – the wind in our hair, the perfect playlist in rotation, the open road all to ourselves in pursuit of a destination to somewhere wonderful. I had every detailed planned out from cool places to stop along…Read More
If you woke up this morning, the day after V-day, with a chocolate hangover and the guy by your side was your ex, you just might have a case of “retrosexualitis,” meaning that when the going gets tough in the dating scene, you get weak for your ex. If the Britney song “Oops I did…Read More
“I can’ t BELIEVE I did it again!” she exclaimed, late to our weekly Sunday brunch, hair a mess clearly wearing the clothes from last night, smudged eyeliner, evidently not having slept a wink, as she slammed down her purse (panties partially hanging out), spilling my now not so perfect hangover latte. I excuse myself…Read More