GUEST POST: 3 Strikes and Then What?

just divorced

Meet Mark. My dear friend. My dear talented, smart, sweet, funny friend, Mark. I met Mark just before he got married. Married for the third time. I distinctly remember him telling me how he knew this would be the last walk down the aisle. Alas, a few weeks ago, Mark signed divorce papers. For the third time.…Read More

Free to Be

the notebook

Watching The Notebook last night I was reminded of how important FREEDOM is in a relationship. When you’ve never had it you don’t realize its value, when you have it, you sometimes take it for granted and when it is taken away, it feels like a piece of your soul has vanished. I know this…Read More

My Last 1st Date

tj costa rica

Today is the third anniversary of my last first date. Otherwise knows as my first date with my now husband, Jason. Not to sound too much like a Hallmark card, but it’s resulting in some particularly butterfly’ish feelings this morning. Maybe because we are also approaching our first anniversary as a married couple. I don’t…Read More

Animal Love Lessons

elephants

When you are a relationship expert, it seems there is no escaping love lessons. Whether I go to a playground, the circus, the grocery store or the laundromat, I’m always picking up jewels of relationship wisdom. But my visit to the San Diego Zoo this weekend may have trumped them all. Every stop along the…Read More

The Spark That Didn’t Get Away: Taking Chances on Love

illstrated dinner

It’s Friday night and romance is in the air at Chez something I can’t pronounce restaurant. It’s me, an Amaretto rocks, a barely flickering votive and my part-time lover, my computer, that I affectionately call Big MAC.  Poetically, ironically, perfectly, I’m the only one as far as I can tell other than the employees (although…Read More