Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
To become an ace student of dating, it is all about putting what you learn into action. Burying yourself in textbooks and lessons can only take you so far so here is a cliff notes, crash course in dating designed to give you insta-success this weekend out in the dating playground. Don’t worry about failing…Read More
So it is President’s Day. The day that we honor our, to date, 44 Presidents of the United States. Or maybe for you it is a day to honor sleeping in, nursing a hangover, cashing in on killer sales, having extended coffee dates with girliefriends and so on. For me, I like to pause and…Read More
As in nature, in relationships a balance of give and take must be struck for harmony to be achieved. Sounds cliché, I know, but its true, and often, as women, our natural tendencies to mother takeover in a relationship and we can over-give, resulting in not paying attention to the scales. While relationships shouldn’t be…Read More
I can remember as even a tiny little girl (around 4 years old) my mother telling me “to marry my best friend.” What she forgot to mention (aside from the fact that yes, eventually I might actually not be totally grossed out by kissing, let alone boys), was that I first had to fall head-over-heels…Read More
In the world of dating, it is easy to get swept up by fear and in turn lose faith. But talk to any “successful” dater and she will tell you that faith was instrumental in her love quest. Unsure of where you stand on the faith/fear meter? Take this quiz to find out! 1. Imagine…Read More
We all have our own definition of what it means to be physically slutty. Some of us may even be current or recovery sluts. But have you ever thought about if you are emotionally promiscuous? Being emotionally promiscuous can take an equal toll on our self-esteem as being physically promiscuous. Promiscuity is characterized as casual…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
Four years ago I spent some time in Africa – Mozambique to be specific. In my village there was no electricity, no plumbing, water was 1.5 mile walk away, food was scarce and to be shared among the many inhabitants. Medical care was unheard of and shelter at best included a mud floored hut with…Read More
I am really being put to the test these days. I am being challenged in every way I know on how to carry and express love for someone who is foreseeably unlovable. I’ll admit, I’m doing a pretty sucky job. Here’s what happens. Despite my ingrained belief to love all, serve all… not give love…Read More
I’m a big believer in universal energy. I believe that everything in the universe is on loan to us to leverage as we need. I believe that we are born to love and born to be loved. I believe that it is EVERYONE’S divine right to experience rich, gorgeous, healthy, sustainable love. But what I…Read More
There are scads of articles and books written promising a foolproof formula to finding a husband. Usually they include a step by step guide with a guarantee of success in x number of days. If you are a reader of these, time to toss them and whatever manipulation they have down to your head and…Read More
Today was haircut day. Haircut day always reminds me of a less good version of my current self. It reminds me of a day that I had no voice. Back in the day, I would dread getting my haircut. Granted when I was 10 I had a hairstylist on her own mission and cut TWELVE…Read More
The “L” word (love) is a funny thing. Most of us begin a dating journey in hopes to arrive at that magically warm, comforting place. But what we may not realize is that getting there too fast can be detrimental. The “L” word in my opinion is a journey in and of itself comprised of…Read More
Everybody wants an abundantly rich, gorgeous love-filled life. And in my opinion, it is achievable by ANYONE regardless of your history, circumstances, or otherwise. To get there, sure you need the right attitude, but you also need a team… a dream team to help you along the way. By having a team of supporters, and…Read More
There is gobs of information and advice on what sustains a relationship, but in my opinion, it all comes down to THREE essentials… the 3 As: 1. ATTENTION: Taking a vested interest in the life of your partner demonstrates love, plus the capacity for true partnership. When you are paying attention, all of your senses…Read More
“You are your propblem… and your solution,” – Brynn (Rebel Wilson) from Bridesmaids. Ok, I agree, this is one of the most duh quotes ever, but when I heard it this weekend in the over-the-top hilarious and emotionally heartfelt flick, my lightbulb had a MAJOR flash. Too often I encounter people who (pardon my French),…Read More
I’ve always been someone who rocks to her own beat. Even since I was a kid, my lane of comfort was the one that often defied logic or went against instructor instruction. I didn’t choose the path consciously; perhaps it chose me. For the most part it has worked out well… I’ve lived a life…Read More
I always imagined a marriage full of laughter. Sure, realistically there would be bickering here and there and a blow-out fight every once and again for good measure, but for the most part, when I thought marriage, I thought laughter. This is NOT what you see on TV. And it is definitely not what I…Read More
My stepdaughter has a bit of a bullying problem. Actually it is more like a mean girls problem. And it sucks. It is so painful to watch her sweet little face spill out the tragedy of the day while she eats her afternoon snack. Each day it is an extension of the previous day… a…Read More