Tristan Coopersmith: Love Stylist
Welcome to the new happily ever after!
We all have our own definition of what it means to be physically slutty. Some of us may even be current or recovery sluts. But have you ever thought about if you are emotionally promiscuous? Being emotionally promiscuous can take an equal toll on our self-esteem as being physically promiscuous. Promiscuity is characterized as casual…Read More
All too often I hear from clients that they wish they had time to date but they just don’t. My immediate reply is, “You are already in a relationship.” A puzzled look ensues. It is true, I insist. You are already in a relationship. It might not be with a man, but it is with…Read More
I’ll admit it. I like to be right. No, correction, I LOVE to be right. And in my former, less evolved life, being right was top priority in my relationships – romantic, professional, familial and otherwise. Being right felt good! It felt powerful and validating. But it also felt very lonely and shame ridden. Being…Read More
Four years ago I spent some time in Africa – Mozambique to be specific. In my village there was no electricity, no plumbing, water was 1.5 mile walk away, food was scarce and to be shared among the many inhabitants. Medical care was unheard of and shelter at best included a mud floored hut with…Read More
I am really being put to the test these days. I am being challenged in every way I know on how to carry and express love for someone who is foreseeably unlovable. I’ll admit, I’m doing a pretty sucky job. Here’s what happens. Despite my ingrained belief to love all, serve all… not give love…Read More
I’m a big believer in universal energy. I believe that everything in the universe is on loan to us to leverage as we need. I believe that we are born to love and born to be loved. I believe that it is EVERYONE’S divine right to experience rich, gorgeous, healthy, sustainable love. But what I…Read More
There are scads of articles and books written promising a foolproof formula to finding a husband. Usually they include a step by step guide with a guarantee of success in x number of days. If you are a reader of these, time to toss them and whatever manipulation they have down to your head and…Read More
Today was haircut day. Haircut day always reminds me of a less good version of my current self. It reminds me of a day that I had no voice. Back in the day, I would dread getting my haircut. Granted when I was 10 I had a hairstylist on her own mission and cut TWELVE…Read More
We all know that a relationship’s foundation must include honesty, communication, romance, a sense of humor and loyalty. Turns out that just isn’t enough. So, what else does it take to sustain a happy, healthy relationship? I’ve got five secrets to help put you and your sweetheart on the road to lasting relationship bliss. 1. “We” Time”:…Read More
IMHO, every girl should own an ice cream maker. Simply, ice cream makes us feel good! Not to mention we could all use a little more calcium in our diet, latte addiction aside. The truth is, it is just much more fun to make your own ice cream than it is to be relegated to…Read More
I BELIEVE in pink. I BELIEVE that laughing is the best calorie burner. I BELIEVE in kissing, kissing a lot. I BELIEVE in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I BELIEVE that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I BELIEVE that tomorrow is another day. I BELIEVE in miracles. I stumbled upon…Read More
The “L” word (love) is a funny thing. Most of us begin a dating journey in hopes to arrive at that magically warm, comforting place. But what we may not realize is that getting there too fast can be detrimental. The “L” word in my opinion is a journey in and of itself comprised of…Read More
Truth be told, I used to be anti-marriage. Not anti-marriage for everyone but certainly for me. I had witnessed a crappy marriage and a worse divorce with my parents. I was NOT going to repeat their mistakes. I would be the responsible one… thinking before I had kids, knowing that they are the true victims…Read More
One of the most recurring themes of conversations among my clients and personal girlfriends alike is how almost perfect “he” was. I hear it all from “if only he wasn’t so short” to “if only he had a better relationship with his mom.” While this post isn’t about modifying your perspective of perfect, you might…Read More
I grew up with a unique name. And at the time (the 80s), unique names were not cool. You got made fun; you were left out of having personalized signs, pencils, license plates for your bike. So I’ve definitely always had a “thing” with names. To me, a name defines you in many ways, despite…Read More
Everybody wants an abundantly rich, gorgeous love-filled life. And in my opinion, it is achievable by ANYONE regardless of your history, circumstances, or otherwise. To get there, sure you need the right attitude, but you also need a team… a dream team to help you along the way. By having a team of supporters, and…Read More
Upon reading some interesting new research from It’sJustLunch (a casual, no pressure matchmaking service), I am beginning to wonder, how long should you take to decide that a first date is worthy of another date? According to IJL, 60% of men and 55% of women decide in the first twenty minutes! Twenty minutes?! That seems crazy…Read More
Not a day goes by when I don’t have some sort of thought about how I could really stand to lose 5 pounds. Sometimes the thought is fleeting and other times, it lingers. The more it lingers, the more it spirals into other bad thoughts and the more it spirals, the worse I feel. Sound…Read More
Once upon a time there was a guy – a very handsome and charming guy – who we will call B. B was one of those guys who could melt you with just a glance in your direction. He was the guy that sent you cookies and milk, just because. He’d never send flowers –…Read More
Smart dating is a lot like advertising for a job. It’s about letting people know that you are open for dating business! That YOU are ready for fabulous and willing applicants! And the best way, short of purchasing billboard space or using a megaphone at a rally, is to build your love network. You already…Read More
