Giving is good. No, correction – giving is great. If feels awesome to do for others. However, in the beginning of a relationship, over-giving, over-doing can create a dynamic where you become a doormat – that girl who is willing to do anything for her guy, prematurely. If you flirt with doormat-dom, ask yourself why? Are you really THAT giving, or do you more likely suffer with fear of rejection or abandonment, and you give and give to increase the odds the guy will stay? Be honest – most fall in the latter category. And sadly, ultimately get left anyway since over-giving is impossible to sustain, particularly when it isn’t being reciprocated. Value yourself enough to make your needs equally as important as your date’s. Only when give and take is balance, is relationship harmony achieved.

55% of communication between two people is through body language! This is a far cry from the 7% that relies on what you actually say. When it comes to dating and/or flirting, body language becomes a dance and research has shown time and time again that when you follow the cues of your date, attraction is stronger.  If he is leaning in, you lean in. If he touches your leg, touch his back.  Mirror movements with a 10-20 second delay to appear natural – the more you do it the more natural it actually becomes. Mirroring actions and mood makes people feel at ease and feeling at ease leads to increased openness.