Women who fish for compliments (“I got my haircut today….”, “Do you like my new top?”) are totally see through… and men can’t stand it. A woman who is looking for compliments demonstrates lack of self-confidence and even worse, a dependence on others for self-validation – not exactly the role a guy wants to sign up for, right? The irony here is that the better you feel about yourself – the more you self-compliment – the more readily you will get complimented. Instead of begging to be recognized, spend your energy radiating what is already awesome about you!

55% of communication between two people is through body language! This is a far cry from the 7% that relies on what you actually say. When it comes to dating and/or flirting, body language becomes a dance and research has shown time and time again that when you follow the cues of your date, attraction is stronger.  If he is leaning in, you lean in. If he touches your leg, touch his back.  Mirror movements with a 10-20 second delay to appear natural – the more you do it the more natural it actually becomes. Mirroring actions and mood makes people feel at ease and feeling at ease leads to increased openness.

Gum can be a date saver when your breath is less than ideal, but be sure to toss it before your greeting. Gum is distracting. Gum makes you look insecure. Gum raises body issue flags. Gum inhibits you form having a completely gorgeous smile. Not to mention it is gross speaking to someone who is chomping on a spitty piece of gum! If you really need to freshen your breath, opt for a much more tasteful mint.

We’ve all been there – on a date with a guy with a wandering eye. He thinks he is being slick but he is beyond obvious – his clever chit-chat with the waitress, his need to stretch his neck as the girl in the spandex skirt passes by… you get the idea. And how does it make us feel? Horrible, to say the least. But here’s a newsflash – we ladies aren’t so innocent when it comes to having peripheral flirting mechanisms. As a former bartender I can tell you, women do it just as much as men. this may seem obvious but as a former bartender i can tell you it happens all the time. So, if you want the courtesy of being paid attention to exclusively, stay focused on the guy in front of you and save your gazes for nights out with the girls.

An open mouth smile conveys total radiance –  a female magnetism that attracts men from across a room! The simple act of opening wide and showing your pearly whites makes you appear open and confident… two highly attractive qualities. Conversely, the open mouth smile can indicate that you are trying to hide something or that you are trying to hard to look cute, as opposed to being so comfortable in your own skin that you can just let go. Finally the open mouth smile says, “You can trust me. I’m open. I won’t bite.”