I get it. You’re a smart girl (after all, you are reading this blog – lol!). You know a lot and love to share what you know. That’s just being generous, right? WRONG. Well sort of wrong. Sure it is nice to be giving what you have which includes knowledge, but always having to be right, always needing to prove a point is just down right obnoxious. Sure, feel free to debate on a date, but be sure you give your opposing opinions respectfully, not condescendingly. Avoid ranting on and on… a simple statement should suffice; you may come across as a smarty pants, but more significantly, what you prove when you are relentless about proving your point is that you are pompous, self-centered and annoying… ergo, not someone fun or easy to be around… and certainly not someone who is second date worthy!

Whether you realize it or not, you may be presenting yourself to men as a gold digger, and consequently have him darting for the nearest exit faster than Usain Bolt in the 100 yard dash. You see when a man looks at a woman looking at him with dollar signs in her sparkly eyes, not only does he worry about a pocket drainage, he begins to feel less than… less than the total package he probably is and more like a animate ATM machine. So be weary of the questions you are asking and how you respond to answers. Focus on learning about your mandidate’s character, values, interests, family, NOT those things that make it sound like you are calculating dig potential, such as what kind of car he drives, his salary/bonus structure, what his parents do for a living, 5 year financial plan, restaurants frequented. Also, don’t be afraid to offer to pay for your own drink!

Aside from what I hope is an obvious fact that the world would be a nicer place if women would grow up and behave kindly towards one another, when they are not, the effect is also detrimental to their dating lives. Point blank – men think little of women who find it necessary to bash other women. When you are unkind to other women – strangers and/or friends alike, you demonstrate feelings of being threatened, jealous or otherwise not self-loving… all of which are a real turn OFF to men. So when you are out dating, make an effort to be kind to other women such as the waitress. This is a sure-fire way to stand out in a sea of catty women, not to mention you contribute to better universal energy – win win!

Women who fish for compliments (“I got my haircut today….”, “Do you like my new top?”) are totally see through… and men can’t stand it. A woman who is looking for compliments demonstrates lack of self-confidence and even worse, a dependence on others for self-validation – not exactly the role a guy wants to sign up for, right? The irony here is that the better you feel about yourself – the more you self-compliment – the more readily you will get complimented. Instead of begging to be recognized, spend your energy radiating what is already awesome about you!

55% of communication between two people is through body language! This is a far cry from the 7% that relies on what you actually say. When it comes to dating and/or flirting, body language becomes a dance and research has shown time and time again that when you follow the cues of your date, attraction is stronger.  If he is leaning in, you lean in. If he touches your leg, touch his back.  Mirror movements with a 10-20 second delay to appear natural – the more you do it the more natural it actually becomes. Mirroring actions and mood makes people feel at ease and feeling at ease leads to increased openness.